What's with all the woman-bashing lately? I've been finding all sorts of really sexist rants and "questions" in this section of Answers. What gives? Are men suddenly feeling threatened that a woman got so close to being President? Or do the vast majority of men relaly think that sexism is a thing of the past?
I have to say, with our right to choose what we do with our own bodies constantly being threatened as a campaign strategy, the fact that we get a little up in arms about equal rights seems like a natural sort of thing. Also, look at how we're represented in movies! "The House Bunny" (?!) where the extremely attractive woman is told that at 27 she's "too old" to be in playboy. What about those ubiqutous college movies with hot co-eds that really just want to show their boobs? Cuz I know that's what I want to major in... Men just don't have any equivalent. How can you guys seriously think that sexism is gone? It's just become more subtle and more exceptable if it's disguised as entertainment. |
Gender inequality is rife.
Rape is ridiculously common and we have a criminal justice system (well i'm in the uk but other western countries are similar) which rarely even puts a rape trial to court, let alone results in a conviction. In rape trials female victims are often treated as if they are the criminal and have to justify their behaviour, how much they drank, the clothes they wore, their sex life...it's disgusting.
Domestic violence and other such crimes against women are also still common.
Women are still struggling to break through the glass ceiling by being given promotions and have to worker harder than male colleagues to prove themselves and suffer both vertical and horizontal segregation at work. Also, the pay gap has not disappeared - women still earn about 2/3 of what men earn in the same job and worldwide it is 1/10th of what men earn. Female graduates earn less than male graduates.
Women's rights are threatened, with attempts being made to erode current abortion laws.
We live in a society which is becoming pornogriphised and sexualising young women. They are more objectified than ever before and this reinforces gender inequality and leads women to focus increasingly more on their appearance. The beauty myth results in thousands of women suffering from eating disorders, insecurity and cutting up their bodies and trying to remould them in a futile attempt to live up to an impossible aesthetic ideal. Strip clubs are becoming rife (at least here in the uk), prostitution is becoming accepted as is pornography (altho i should mention feminist debate around the importance of porn and how prostitution should be viewed, vary).
There is still a lot of gender inequality and that's just without mentioning the general sexist attitudes many men still hold.
Of course feminism is still relevant. We are no where near equal. |
Im looking for a college of these standards? which one should i go to? hi im looking for a college that;
-is co-ed
-has sports
-has hot girls
-has nice people and no stuck up *****
-where fighting video games such as mortal kombat are really popular
-there's a ninjutsu program
-has a hospitality management/administration major program
-is in a nice clean large city (ex: Boston)
-is in the New England area
Mortal Kombat being required, hot girls, and hospitality management/administration program major all have to be requrired. Everything else can be optional. Thank you and please help! :) |
| I'm afraid colleges with only nice people don't take arrogant twits who select on the basis of "hot girls". |
If you're running a car wash, what would get you more traffic? More and more I see mexicans doing the "car wash for donation" gig. I'm not liking this trend. I rather prefer the college co-eds in string bikinis....but what do I know.
Honestly, I don't want somebody F'ing up my car's finish unless its a hot chick. |
| My good friend used to run a bikini car wash, too many complaints from the neighborhood caused the city to have to shut him down. |
I'm hoping to share rooms with a hot female roommate next year...what are some strategies to maximize chances? My college apartment community is doing co-ed next year. There's hundereds of rooms to choose to reserve. How do I maximize my chances of reserving a room with a hot female roommate?
I tried scouting the apartments myself but it's impossible to gather any useful info.
It's going to be like a slot machine....
1st slot: The female roommate is hot
2nd slot: No boyfriend
3rd: Heterosexual |
| Try the old fashioned approach -- ask her for a date. Or too much trouble for you? |
Why did she stay Mad at me for This? so there was this chick she was hot too me she was a college co-ed type girl kind of tall.. good looking,etc
but heard she got a bf back home in Colorado but this chick seem to like me or be digging me she would look at me shyly or coyly and would get nervous like shes hiding something when i would approach her
kind of had a feeling she had a crush on me and she would be staring at me.. alot and flirt with me.. i didn't wanna hang out with her cause i knew i would probably get a hard on and end up sleeping with her... would be awkward at work..
anyhow i didn't so i didn't hang out with her and i would hear my co-workers saying she wanted to hang out with me,etc..
but like i said.. i am a horn dog.. if i go out with a chick like that.. i would be having sexual thoughts all the time..
so i didn't hang out with her but i heard people saying she liked me and i was such an A**HOLE!!
for not hanging with her..
when she left back home that she was crying that i was a jerk too her when she had no idea i was actually helping myself and her
one time she was staring at me sort of like crying and i can tell she was hurt.. she had her hands on her hips.. this was before she departed back home.. giving me the '' u hurt me look''
seriously what's up with all these emotions???
why didn't she get over me?? why did she wanted to go out so bad??? etc??
??? |
| She most likely feels like you led her on. She seems like she is very into you. She wants to hang out with you and she likes you! Do you know for sure that she has a boyfriend in Colorado? and if they are exlusive, or having an open relationship? |
How to look hot for 2 days? I'm going to my boyfriends college for 2 days and 2 nights. I usually do my make up and hair before seeing him. How can i go my make up and hair so that i dont have to fix it at all while i'm there (there would be nowhere to touch up bc even the bathrooms are co ed) |
| Try to be cute! It;s the best beauty secret! Brush your hair well, don't use a lot of makeup just so your boyfriend likes. Have nice days and.......... nights with him! |
Boarding school? what boarding school is most like the "it girl" books. co-ed and not with nerdy boys? it doesn't matter where in the united states it is, as long as there's boarding and there are hot boys. more specifically than that it would be great to find a school that isn't really small and where people go to schools like stanford for college. |
| Sorry to break it to you, but being attractive as per the "It Girl" books and going to Stanford are mutually exclusive save massive donations. |
I am extremely shy around boys and can't conquer the fear because I go to a all female catholic school! Help!? I am afriad that this problem will affect me when I have to go to a co-ed college and actually have talk to boys. When, I am talking to a boy I get the same way I get when I do public speaking, I can't look people in the eye, I get really hot, and my face becomes red. I can only hold out a few sentence conversations with boys such as: "Hi Tom! Yeah. It's that page. Yeah. Okay, bye." As you can see, not such an interesting convo. |
| I spent 3 years in an all boys school and it set me back a bit but don't worry it will pass ! |
Help for a D-: college student would be v. appreciated? Mmmkay. So here I am in my second-third week of college. I am kind of feeling under the weather, and I think it may be a little more than the average lost and confused college freshman. I am concerned for my health as well as my happy mentality and peace of mind. Each of the problems I am having is pretty small, but together, they are making things kind of uncomfortable.
As a woman, I have PMS (which sucks) and my particular case is worse than average (of that I am sure, but by how much I am not so sure). Okay, I take birth control to take the edge off of it and it super works, but I still need to monitor my moods at least a little and make sure that I am not feeling too blue.
Right now that's kind of hard. I just feel so out of place because I can't seem to connect to anyone. The people who are in nearby dorms seem to particularly like romantic relationships and bring their boyfriends/fiancees/lovers into the dorms and they sleep over and now my favorite bathroom is co-ed. I am pretty shy and unaccustomed to this so I end up hiding in my dorm because there is just so little order in the halls. Sure I like guys... but all of this? It's just going over my head, I've kissed a boy, that's it.
The people seems nice though, just a little too wild for me to catch up. I am trying, but then my physical health gets in the way (once again, minor problems). I have found that I am having trouble eating I just cannot bring myself to eat a lot during the meals that are provided. I have to steal fruit in order to satisfy my hunger later. I have also had a lot of trouble with meat. I eat none (I think other people have this problem too) because it tastes and smells so bad to me.
Another minor physical problem is how the heat is affecting my body. I am having a lot of trouble with determining if my body is hot or cold (I just feel so weird sometimes). When I get too hot, my head hurts, I feel dizzy and breathing is a chore. I was feeling way disoriented and uncomfortable today so I took a cold shower: I think it worked pretty well but now I'm sweating like crazy when I wasn't at all earlier. I guess I could be coming down with a crazy cold.
Anyway, I am not asking for a miracle so much as maybe an idea as to which problem I can tackle first and how I can tackle it to make things better. There are many things about college that I also like right now, like my classes, the beautiful campus and my nice teachers! I just happen to loose sight of the good things when these problems are causing my emotions to slip. |
This doesn't sound good. I wonder if you don't actually have some disease that is making you feel bad. A friend of mine had symptoms similar to what you're describing and it turned out she had an unusual disease called Lyme disease. I'm not saying you have that, I just think you should check in with your school health services and make sure you are OK!
Also, I know the conditions in the dorms these days are pretty wild and wooly, but nearly all schools have some dorms that are all women or health dorms or some other special arrangement that could work better for you. If you make a point of telling the student counselors that you are on the verge of dropping out of school because of the dorm situation, they might be motivated to help you out. What does your Resident Assistant say about the coed bathroom situation?
School is tough enough without either being sick or being unable to sleep and use the bathroom comfortably. Check out the solutions and get things settled down before they drag on too long.
Good luck!
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I'm A College TA/Class Facilitator. Is it wrong to Contact a Female Student Socially Outside of Class? Here's the deal. I'm a Class Facilitator/TA at a large private university. I have my bachelor's degree and i'm in graduate school in a masters program. I'm co-teaching a co-ed undergraduate sociology class.
Some of my students have facebooked me, being that i'm only two years older than some of the oldest undergrads in the class. There's a female undergraduate student in the class that i'm attracted to. She's really really hot and seems like a great girl.
I sent her a facebook invite and she accepted. Late that day, I sent her an invite for a facebook chat and we ended up chatting that night on facebook for over two hours about non-class related things, like movies, music, life in general.
I do like this student and would like to get to know her more. However, am I overstepping my teacher/student role if I contact her outside of class? Wouldn't it be safe to say she has some interest in me, at least as a friend if we talked on facebook for that long?
What should I do? She's doing well in the class anyway, so I won't feel forced to give her a better grade. Should I not talk to her outside of class anymore? Is it inappropriate? Should I wait until after grades are in and the semester's over to talk to her again?
I feel really guilty because I do like her and I know my intentions are for us to perhaps date at some point. But at the same time, because i'm only 23, and teaching an undergrad class full of 19,20, and 21 year olds, where my line as a TA/Class facilitator ends, and where my own personal line as a person and student begins.
It's also harder because the class is very non traditional, it's not in a lecture style format and is much more laid back and relaxed, which does make it harder for me to know how to interact with my students.
What should I do? Any advice would be helpful. |
Your line as a TA trumps any interest you have in a current student and your conduct as you describe it is way over the line of appropriate behavior. It doesn't matter that you spent time chatting about non-academic things, university instructors are not supposed to get involved socially with students in their classroom. Tell all your students that you do not want facebook contacts. If they want to talk to you, they should do so after class or during office hours (where you keep your door open, btw)
Your school should have standards of behavior written somewhere regarding this issue. If not, you need to talk to your teacher of record or another mentor about how to set boundaries in the classroom.
You are setting yourself up for some potentially dangerous and professionally damaging consequences if you continue to engage in outside conversations with her...especially since you are clearly attracted to her and have intentions to date in the future. It doesn't matter that she is doing well in your class; the perception of favoritism or inappropropriate advantage by others in the class could result in a grievance filed against you. Then there is a risk of sexual harrassment the young woman could file, even if the student is responding to your attention. This doesn't just apply to the young woman you mention. Beers with the guys is equally inappropriate, albeit with less sexual undercurrents...but maybe not if a guy is attracted to you. I doubt if your teacher of record or the department chair or VP of academics would look favorably on your actions, especially since you initiated contact.
As a TA, you have a position of power over this student that comes with the teacher/student dynamic. You already know what to do...stop the personal contact until the semester is over. It's already October, you only have a few weeks left. In the mean time, keep your personal feelings and intentions in check.
I am not unsympathetic to your situation; learning to teach and establishing boundaries can be difficult, especially since you are so close in age to your students. |